Just a little background before I begin. Every year I participate in the Daniel Fast for the first twenty one days of the year as a first fruit offering to God for my new year. It’s been my practice for 13 years & I look forward to it. Not only does it give me clarity for important decisions & direction about things God wants for my life, but it forces me to exercise healthy eating discipline. This year I also participated in a weight loss challenge at work. I’ve purposely resisted the last three challenges, but decided it was time. Once my twenty one days of DF were completed, I chose to attempt the Autoimmune Protocol diet, or commonly known as AIP. This discipline was more toward eliminating constant neuromuscular pain rather than weight loss, but if that was a side effect, hey…. I wouldn’t mind. I determined two weeks would be enough & began the journey. The biggest hurdle was not to focus on what I couldn’t eat, but rather the lonnnnnng list of things I could have. I realize some foods trigger intestinal problems & that clearly wasn’t my problem, but nevertheless….. I was all in. Once I got past the first week, I decided two weeks wouldn’t nearly do my body justice. It’s like the book, Slight Edge says about the one donut not causing long term problems, but a donut a day over time would. I didn’t eat a donut a day or per week or month for that matter, but the foods I was ingesting, over time, led to the current problems I was having. Some, I felt, weren’t relative, but I was so wrong. Two weeks couldn’t begin to help in the measure I needed.
Yesterday I was talking with a coworker about how much better my body feels since being on AIP. I’ve just completed week five & will continue toward the suggested three month cycle.
How does this make me feel better?? Primarily I was in constant & continual neuromuscular or fibromyalgia type pain completely unrelieved by up to 2500 mg. of Naproxen Sodium daily. I say ”type pain” because I’ve never been clinically diagnosed, but as a nurse, I’ve treated hundreds of patients exhibiting fibro symptoms, so…. I know. The pain was so debilitating, I was to the point of asking my doctor to run tests & put me on meds. Those who know me know this was obviously affecting more than my muscles. It had affected my brain & thought processes because I’m the antichrist of Big Pharma & prefer natural alternative medicine.
My daily activities, primarily on weekends, were geared around how much walking or standing I would have to do. Shopping was virtually out of the question. My visits with my family were so anticipated because I miss them dearly, yet I had to psychologically prepare myself to endure the pain. How horrible! This constant pain began limiting my desire to do anything but stay at home, binge watch TV & that only made things worse. Inactivity only accentuated stiffness & pain, so it was a freaking vicious cycle. Yet…. my recliner won. Those who know me know I’m not a sloth!
Also…. I had developed this wheeze that only occurred when I reclined or went to bed. Again….being a nurse…..I was in the process of diagnosing this. I simply blamed it on being morbidly obese. That’s how the BMI chart defined my weight category. Well… last night I actually noticed it was completely gone. The only pain I have is caused from osteoarthritis, specifically in bilateral knees. The neuromuscular pain has been eliminated. I won the weight loss challenge in the most pounds lost category & am never hungry. Seriously I am satisfied by sticking to the allowed foods. I must confess I never gave up coffee & the only dairy product I allow is a reduced amount of half & half used in my coffee. I’ve mixed coconut cream with that, so technically I’m not ingesting the normal amounts I typically did. Trust me when I say my psyche had a fit with that adjustment because my coffee had to be a certain cream to coffee color, so…. it’s an ever bigger sacrifice than I expected. So worth it!
I am 56. I am even more consciously aware of the natural deterioration of the human body. I am also more consciously aware of mortality. Constant pain robs me of my zeal for life. I had to overcome the root cause. Even though I ate relatively healthy, some of those foods were greatly exacerbating my pain. I used to love the saying, ”nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” Today I can say that’s only half true. Nothing tastes as good as feeling good feels. I can’t wait to see how I feel after completing the third month.
If you’re struggling with any type of ailment, I strongly recommend AIP. Three months of my life to identify & eliminate triggers that cause me to feel absolutely horrible has been the greatest gift I’ve given myself. It’s totally not giving up anything, but gaining control & feeling better!
One of my friends, lovingly known as The Goddess, posted this & I wanted to share. It is simple when you think of it, yet very profound. There are seeds of greatness in all of us. The choice of what we do with those seeds has been & always will be up to us alone.
The caterpillar lives its entire life span instinctively knowing it will soon become a butterfly. This metamorphosis dictates every decision the caterpillar makes. From each morsel of food it eats to where it will finally attach its chrysalis. Could we, perhaps, determine the passion that stirs our soul being worthy of such pursuit?
Her words below……….
Enjoy the journey,
I’ve come to realize that there is no “becoming”.
A bud doesn’t “become” a rose.
It already IS a rose.
Always has been.
What you can see is the result of the journey, so far.
Just as an acorn holds an entire forest within it, you have within you all the greatness you’ve been seeking.
Always has been.
What you can see is the result of the journey, so far.
The decision for each of us is what to do with our greatness.
Let it ride, or let it rise?
The choice is ours.
Always has been.
And at the end of this day, this year, this life,
What you see will be the result of the journey, so far.
*The “so far” bit is key.
As I contemplate the ending of 2014 (which I feel I just got used to writing) & face 2015, I want to embrace new journies.
In retrospect of accomplishments to goals set this year I’ve:
(1)become debt free
(2)lost a clothing size & am embracing an even more health consciousness lifestyle
(3)become a minimalist by creating most of my own health & beauty products using Essential Oils
(4)moved into a fabulous new neighborhood
(5)set a course for new personal business endeavors
This leads to what new goals to set!
I want to begin with things like updating my passport, organizing the chapters of my book, maybe even taking some courses in things that interest me like concealed handguns, join a gun range club or etc. Yes….. I have a gun & used to love target practice!!
I ran across this list from something I read today by John Maxwell & want to share it as it has many attributes one could adapt resolutions from.
I will choose and display the right attitudes.
I will determine and act upon important priorities.
I will know and follow healthy guidelines.
I will communicate with and care for my family.
I will practice and develop good thinking.
I will make and keep proper commitments.
I will earn and properly manage finances.
I will deepen and live out my faith.
I will accept and show responsibility.
I will initiate and invest in solid relationships.
I will plan for and model generosity.
I will embrace and practice good values.
I will seek and experience improvements.
I pray 2015 brings a beginning of peace, joy, comfort, love & opposition as without that, we often neglect to respect the first few!!
Forgiveness is the economy of the heart… forgiveness saves the expense of anger, the cost of hatred, the waste of spirits.
― Hannah More
Unforgiveness can be very costly as it’s like a cancer. It can quickly replicate itself causing physical ailments. I’ve literally seen people have to be on high blood pressure meds because the anger & resentment they harbor against someone causes physical symptoms. This can further lead to other debilitating diagnoses. What about anti-anxiety meds? How many people do you know that take prescription anti-depressants or mood altering drugs because they blame someone for a life event & refuse to surrender it??
Hey! Won’t you play another somebody done somebody wrong song!! Besides big pharma, every outlet of media feeds off of it, yet it’s primarily costing you invaluable quality of life. We’ve heard it said, “Unforgiveness is like drinking poison & expecting the other person to die.” It destroys us, because chances are, the person we’re captive to doesn’t think about us at all.
It isn’t worth the cost. As the quote eludes, the economy of the heart shouldn’t be depleted because of an emotion. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to become besties & you may never feel you’ve crossed over. It isn’t a feeling, but a decision. It means you can finally stop rehearsing the wrong, release it & not give that person permission to hold you captive any longer
Human trafficking is a sick, twisted, social disease that should never be permitted to occur or continue. The bondages we repeatedly function in, because of unforgiveness, are no different. We sell our souls; perform unhealthy acts of conduct & remain slaves to a thought, idea, or circumstance. It isn’t worth it. However, you; your well being; psychological & physical health is.
Freedom from unhealthy side effects, bitterness or hate is within your control. Be honest & open with yourself. Determine this day is the day for the madness to stop.
Let go & live.
I purpose daily to read several leadership blogs & intentionally post positive quotes. This morning my chosen quote stirred my thoughts. This is actually the purpose. Too many times we try to tell people what to think instead of inspiring or empowering them to think on their own. Here’s the quote:
A few years ago I learned about three little words that have the potential to create a catalyst for change. Be, Do, Become. These can be practically applied in any area in which we desire change. The process is relatively easy. Begin with a choice of what you want to change or who you would like to be. Now let’s not get crazy & want to become another human! Perhaps there is someone who is a role model to you. What is it about them that you want to emulate? Do they speak well in front of others? Are they kind, generous & thoughtful? Are they known for how they serve others? Do they exude a healthy lifestyle? Are they physically active? Are they disciplined in certain areas of their life that challenges you to raise the standard in your own life? Are they a great parent? Whatever it is, choose to glean specific info from an area. This focus will include reading specific subject matter from credible sources. Exercise discipline regarding this change by putting it into daily or even more incremental practices. A book that has changed my life in so many areas, The Slight Edge, provides tremendous wisdom in how to implement & enforce this. During your waking hours, purposely think about this change. One of my favorite Bible scriptures instructs us to call those things that be not as though they were. I like to refer to it as the Speckled & Spotted Principle! One of my favorite books, the ant & the ELEPHANT teaches us about the power of the conscious vs the subconscious mind. You have probably read how many world renown athletes see themselves batting that home run, or shooting that winning hoop, etc. There is something powerful about visualization.
The second step is to Do what it is that you want to change. If you are following a mentor or role model, do what they’ve done to accomplish their success. This can start as small as setting the microwave for 5 minutes, look at yourself in the mirror & give a speech. Said speech can be just telling the person in the mirror how wonderful they are! What if it’s writing a book? Begin a blog. Becoming healthy? Cut out fast food except for one day/week. A marathon? Start running at the local high school track or park that has a trail. How about a treadmill? A simple way to begin running if you’ve never done it is to walk 5-10 steps, then run 5-10 steps & increase this, yes, incrementally, until you are running. There are, of course, amazing apps to help you too. Whatever it is….DO something!
Finally…..look in the mirror. Who do you see? Better still, who have you become? Confident? Happy? Healthy? Competent? Courageous? Empowered? Free? In the process, I can’t promise easy, but I can promise it’s totally worth it.
Happy Valentines Day to YOU! Reading all the amazing notes revolving around this beautiful day has been so sweet! I love to see the variety of gifts given as expressions of love & adoration. During our DivorceCare Connect Group last night I specifically addressed this day with our participants. It can be a painful reminder of what you don’t have, rejection, blame, self-loathing, & even depression. For many years I would confess, “I’m getting roses this year!” I’ve only received roses one time in my entire life & that was when my son, Bryce, was born. Nevertheless, after my divorce, I would say this consistently every year as I worked at the hospital. On Valentines Day, 1995, I did the same thing. To my surprise I received a cute basket of mixed flowers from an anonymous admirer! Who were they from? Could it be? There was, Earl, a physical therapist I had grown very close to. We developed an excellent professional relationship & became friends. I would have enjoyed going out with him, but at that time, I wouldn’t have dared asked him to join me for coffee! When I received the flowers his reaction was jealousy, but not to the point of asking me out! Darn it! Who then were the flowers from? Here’s my theory! I had the best co-workers ever & I believe they pitched in out of pity & respect, mostly pity & purchased them! I was so excited & appreciated the gesture. In preparation for today I looked in the eyes of each person in my group last night & told them this.
Happy Valentine’s Day!!
Please remember……You are so beautiful! You are loved very deeply.
The Lord, your maker, is your husband & He is an amazing companion, YOU are the apple of His eye & He thinks about you continuously! He loves you beyond words & wrote a book filled with loving thoughts & encouragement for you. He is the lover of your soul!!
Even through reading all the mushy-gushy social media posts, for some reason there have been 2 specific words that have resonated over & over in my heart. Not sure as to why they are captivating my attention, but in light of seeing all the beautiful relationships being affirmed, I know there are just as many, if not more, that aren’t. BTW…if you’re an English major, please apply grace to my use of commas! Here are the 2 words & their meaning:
com·pla·cen·cy – noun \kəm-ˈplā-sən(t)-sē\
a feeling of being satisfied with how things are and not wanting to try to make them better : a complacent feeling or condition; self-satisfaction especially when accompanied by unawareness of actual dangers or deficiencies
ap·a·thy – noun \ˈa-pə-thē\
Apathy is most commonly defined as a lack of feeling, emotion, interest, or concern. It is a state of indifference, lethargy, or the suppression of emotions such as concern, excitement, motivation and/or passion.
An apathetic individual has an absence of interest in or concern about emotional, social, spiritual, philosophical and/or physical life and the world.
In mentoring single adults, primarily separated or divorced, these words are very applicable. We sabotage our relationships with actions of any/all of the words above & wonder what went wrong. My heart is grieved to see this. One of my favorite sayings is, “What it took to get her/him is what it will take to keep her/him.” Once the relationship is solidified is not the time to drop our guard, but rather to ramp up & grow in every area possible. I knew certain skills when I graduated from nursing school & was even licensed to do so. After 25 years in the field, I gained tremendous wisdom that could never have been taught/learned during the education process. Learning is a lifetime commitment & should be expected / practiced daily. If we’re not learning, we’re regressing. The results gained are worth the investment.
I’m an advocate of performing regular self evaluations. I encourage you to read the definitions above, search every area of your life & determine if they exist. IF they do…..please seek guidance in how to flip the coin to become a compassionate, concerned, involved, motivated, person interested in the well being of others & aware of current situations / circumstances.
I can’t imagine going through life without aspirations, goals, dreams or expectations & you shouldn’t either!!! YOU are a one of a kind masterpiece & deserve to enjoy your life to the fullest. Think of how many others you can help direct along the correct path! The ripple would be non-existent without the stone!
Happy Valentines Day Blessings,
2.17.14 PS….I have to add something! I received roses! Well…sort of! I cooked gumbo during our one day snow blitz last week. Being from Louisiana, I cook real, authentic Cajun gumbo & usually only cook it traditionally for our family Christmas. It’s truly a labor of love! Around that time an older gentleman that my daughter, Summer, works with had mentioned the next time I cook gumbo, he would like some. When it snowed again, I wanted it! I sent gumbo & rice in my recycled LouAna Coconut Oil & Dukes Mayo jars! This is what he reciprocated in return! Such a sweet, pleasant gesture! Maybe I should upgrade to glass jars next time! LOLOLOL!